A friend who read my blog post the other day, said she was horrified to find out I was pro-choice. But, I consider myself “pro-health” more than “pro-choice.” I’m not particularly religious, so I don’t let a religion dictate what I can do with my body… I certainly don’t want a government and other people’s religious beliefs to influence to decide what my reproductive rights are. Here’s the deal, this is not a one-size-fits all solution for a lot of reasons.
For instance, let’s ignore any and all of my health problems that aren’t complex regional pain syndrome. If for some horrible reason, I were to get pregnant and a C-Section were required, I’d be screwed. Doing it would run the risk of spreading my disease. And even if I didn’t need a c-section, childbirth could send the nerves around those areas into hyperdrive and spread the disease to my lady bits. And let’s be honest, I was too sick to eat for 6 days due to pain recently from sleeping on a shitty mattress in my camper. Spreading my legs to give birth, is definitely going to cause a massive pain flare. But is nothing about giving birth with CRPS in the hips, is a life or death situation….
And what if that flare doesn’t last just six days? What if it were to last three weeks? What if I had to be hospitalized to treat that flare? What if I had to go through some aggressive and questionable treatments to get my pain back down to a manageable level? I already battle depression because of this disease, giving birth wouldn’t make it better.
J and I have taken steps to prevent this from happening, but honestly, shit happens and the universe has a very cruel sense of humor. Furthermore, we have access to pregnancy prevention because he works at a company that offers health insurance. In that respect, we are lucky. It could easily not be an option for us given the high premiums I’d have to pay for private insurance since I’m self employed.
Also, what about the tens of thousands of women who have to live on medications for mental illnesses? Most of which can’t be taken during pregnancy without running the risk of some serious side effects and some that keep a person so grounded, they aren’t slitting their wrists in the bathtub while listening to the song Blue Monday on repeat? Is that considered endangering the life of the mother?
I do think using abortion as an birth control is morally wrong. But I can think of a lot of situations in which the health of the mother is negatively impacted by a pregnancy with an unwanted child, to such a degree that even though it isn’t life threatening, it could be deemed medically necessary. Unfortunately, medically necessary and life threatening are different things.
Furthermore, contrary to popular opinion, most women do not go skipping into their abortion appointments. It’s a serious decision given serious thought and treated with the solemnity it deserves. I’ve never met a woman that bragged about the number of abortions she’s had. I’m sure there are some out there, because people are weird, but most women never mention it to anyone.
See, I already have questions about the restrictions and it’s really only been a short time since bills banning abortions have started going into effect. Missouri’s reform to abortion is in the form of the 8 week rule. No one over 8 weeks pregnant can get an abortion unless the mother’s life is in danger. And like Alabama there is not an exception for victims of rape or incest. Furthermore, they tried to get it so it didn’t include pregnancies in which the mother’s life was in danger. Thankfully, that was removed before the final draft went to vote, because there wasn’t enough support for it… but they’ll try again. How many women in these states will see a decline in their health as a result of unwanted pregnancies and no other options available to them? We’ll have to wait and see.
Yesterday’s post was about the unintended consequences of forcing the population to have more unwanted babies from the stand point of those children. Today, my thoughts run closer to the health of the mothers of these unwanted babies. It’s not about being pro-choice, it’s about being pro-health, the health of every woman in this country.