I did not invite President Trump into my uterus. As a matter of fact, I have never invited a politician into my uterus, because I believe my right to access birth control should not be a government issue.
Holy shit, they will pay for viagra, but they want to cut the liability to health insurance carriers to allow access to birth control. Are you kidding me?
So it’s fine for men to have sex, but it is not fine for me to use birth control, despite needing it for medical reasons and because my husband and I do not want children. Are you fucking serious?
I have a rare condition that makes pregnancy dangerous to me. My blood thickens when certain hormones are introduced. My doctors believe it is the result of the MTHFR mutation. So paying for my birth control is a hell of a lot cheaper than paying for me accidentally getting pregnant because I don’t have access to my Depo-Provera and paying all the ER bills from the Ovarian cysts that will rupture or paying for the multitude of blood work I need every time I have my period.
And if fetus and I both survive, well, welcome to one more person on Medicare. I do not make the enzymes that process folic acid. It isn’t a big deal because I am not forming a person in my body, but if I was, well that isn’t pretty. Lack of folic acid leads to fetal development issues. I’m talking about babies born with partial skulls and their spines on the outside of their bodies. There is a reason they put pregnant women on prenatal vitamins, but when you can’t process the folic acid from them, they don’t work. I currently take a prescription prenatal vitamin because it does not require me to have the enzymes to process the folic acid in it. But I still only get about 1/4 of the daily recommended dose of folic acid as a result. So any child I give birth to, if I don’t die in the process would face severe physical and mental difficulties and possible deformities.
It isn’t just a matter of I shouldn’t get pregnant, it’s a matter of, I should not even try to get pregnant because it would end badly. My doctor told me the rate at which my blood thickens during pregnancy would probably require me to have an abortion. For my own survival and I’m not talking about at 15 weeks, I’m talking the moment they found out I was pregnant, I would be scheduled for one because when certain hormones are introduced, my risk of blood clots becomes extraordinary. I have to have blood work done every six months for being on Depo Provera, because it makes my blood thicken. The nice part of that is as long as I am on it, it’s unlikely I’m going to bleed to death if I do something stupid. There is a risk of blood clots to me and to a fetus.
This means that if I wanted children, I would have to adopt. Of course, I don’t want children, so my husband and I don’t lose sleep over it. What we do lose sleep over is the fact that occasionally, a person becomes immune to certain types of birth control and they stop working.
With new legislation making it not required for an employer to have birth control coverage in their insurance, I feel like I am under attack by the government. Once again, I feel like the President would rather see his citizens dead than healthy because it’s inconvenient. Because I know I am not the only woman on birth control for health reasons and not just because I don’t want to reproduce, as a matter of fact, it would be foolish to even try to reproduce. However, the birth control pill stopped working for me. I had to switch to something else. A plethora of ovarian cysts rupturing while others grew, proved that the pill was no longer effective and since IUDs are known for having complications, like ovarian cysts, that was not an option. I was only left with two, one of them was Depo Provera. At the time, I was lucky, and Planned Parenthood was willing to take me as a patient and I got a reduced rate for my Depo Provera. My Depo Provera is a little over $600 every three months. Add that cost into the cost of my health insurance and the cost of treatment for CRPS and it becomes unaffordable for me. So now, I have to worry about my husband’s current insurance company, which just changed in November, not covering the cost of my Depo Provera.
So it’s okay for insurance to not have to pay for birth control, but they still pay for viagra and cialis. Are you fucking kidding me? So it’s okay for men to have sex, but not women, not unless they want to risk getting pregnant. And we have done a great job of exempting men from responsibility for an unexpected pregnancy – why wasn’t she on birth control? – No one ever asks why these guys aren’t bagging their junk, possibly double bagging it.
So thanks congress and President Trump for reminding me that I am not important because I am a woman. For the record, insurance can even deny covering birth control if it is medically necessary, like it is in my case, which is backwards logic. It is far cheaper to cover my birth control than to cover the consequences of my not having it.
We have made some serious mistakes with insurance companies over the last umpteen hundred years and now we are making them in congress. We already let insurance companies dictate what and how we can be treated, which is insane. A board of directors should not get to decide if I get treatment for a life threatening disease.
And who the hell gave Congress and the President the power to decide if I should have children or not? I didn’t agree to it. I have known since I was 5 years old that I did not want kids. However, now my government has decided I shouldn’t be able to make that decision. Are you kidding me? We are no longer living in a republic, we are living in a dictatorship… One that decides for me whether I will have children or not. And for the record, if they aren’t going to pay for birth control, then why are they still paying for men to be able to have sex as much as they want.
I am a married woman who doesn’t want kids and my husband doesn’t want kids. So, I guess I will just keep my legs shut for the rest of our marriage and see how that works out for me. And when I get divorced, do I send my lawyer’s bill to congress? Because while sex isn’t the most important part of a marriage, it does play a role in it. Good lord, I already knew the President hated women, by his pussy grabbing statement, but for all of congress to turn on women and decide they know better than us about whether we should have children or not is mind-boggling.